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Tuesday, February 14, 2017

PHYLLISA ANNE AKA AMANDA AND THE IEAU UNION

I started thinking about how the time has come for the sex industry to go union.  It's almost going to have to go union between the religious right anti-trafficking crusaders who are siphoning up all the money from going into actual services for sex workers - leaving them out in the cold with respect to any type of exit or recovery services.

So I started looking into it to see if any already existed.  I found one overseas.  I found another one in San Francisco.  Then I found one here being created by Amanda.  I reached out to her in November saying I really wanted to get behind trying to get as many workers into the union as possible.  I certainly get enough calls now on the hotline from people I think would join, but with the outreach campaign I'm putting together it could really do "double duty".  

It just made more sense to me that we should incorporate the SWA services into a union because we certainly aren't going to be embraced by the anti-trafficking religious right who is only going to provide services if you act like you hated the industry, you want it outlawed, and you call youself a "victim"?  But what about someone who simply has a knee injury and can't put on her stripper heels any longer and hit the stage?  Shouldn't she get exit support services like vocational rehab?

Anyway, I spent about a month trying to get a meeting with this "board".  I saw all these people and pictures on the website of their "board" so I asked to meet with them and talk about how we could combine efforts and work together to benefit the industry.  Only I kept hearing excuses about getting everyone together for a meeting.

Finally I said like "enough" and said "let's get on with this" and Amanda agreed to a meeting with me and EVERYONE.  I arrived at the coffee shop and she was the only person who showed up.  Okay where is everyone?  I heard "they need time to warm up to you.  Okay how exactly are you going to build a union if your board won't come out to a business meeting after a MONTH of "getting to know someone"?

During the meeting, Amanda got increasingly "shaky".  By the end of the meeting her hands were shaking like a jack hammer.  I don't usually have that effect on people.  In fact, I get the opposite.  Usually after people talk to me for about 15 minutes - they relax and love me.  I can't think of when I've met someone who actually got more nervous.

Every question I asked was deflected.  Can I see your website?  It's not up yet.  Can people sign up for memberships online?  We're working on that and should have it in a few days.  Where's your brochures?  We're putting them together.  Application forms?  Working on them.

I asked her about a PR person and she told me she had someone who was actually "getting ahead of herself".  I was like "you had someone willing to do your PR and you STOPPED them?"  That made no sense to me at all.  She said "we weren't ready to take the calls yet".  Okay you tell that to people and you take down their information and you contact them when you can.  I asked to speak to this PR person and got the shuffle.

At this meeting, she agreed to set up a weekly meeting between her, the board, and myself and some people I wanted to get involved to help her so we could work on an outreach campaign.  Only I couldn't pin her to a date and time.  I would say Friday and it was "oh I just started working on Fridays".  Okay how about Tuesday?  No answer.

I did get invited to a phone meeting.  I listened to Amanda literally messing with her speakers for 20 minutes.  The whole thing reminded me of when I was a tweaker 32 years ago.  After listening to her bounce her speakers around for 20 minutes the meeting began only the meeting was Amanda asking me what I could do for her.  I reminded her I was there to meet the board and how about we start there before I start making plans for anything.  Only no one else was talking.  Where were they?  Oh they were "shy" she told me.   She then said "they need time to warm up to you".

Warm up to me?  How are you going to build a union if your board has to "warm up to you" after two MONTHS now of trying to set up a meeting?  Okay so that was a wash.  I then thought I'd make better headway with Tina in Portland.  She's telling me "oh we need a website but we don't have any money to build one".  Okay I offered to help build one.  Only every day I set up to help her build a website - I'm not getting any graphics or text.  I can't build a site without graphics and text.  So this is going nowhere for weeks.

I honestly start getting the feeling someone is running a scam here.  They're asking me "do you think you can get us sponsorship?" and of course I can.  But I explain to get sponsorship I need things.  I need demographics.  I need eyeballs on a blog or social media.  I need sizzle reels.  I need a functioning website for the union where people can sign up.  Oh sure there's a site up - but none of the links are working!  I'm not going to a sponsor to sponsor a union where you can't sign up online even.  I ask what the membership cards look like?  I don't get an answer.  Can I talk to who their union rep. would be?  I don't get an answer.

Then the excuses start.  Amanda is telling me stories of being "thrown out of the AVN".  I saw Adultcon coming up and that would be a good place to get contact information.  I ask her if she's going or do I need to send someone.  She says she's going.  Okay I let her go and check back in a week.  Where's the stack of business cards?  Show directory?

She tells me she "got thrown out of the Adultcon" and that's why she doesn't have contact information.  Now I remembered at our lunch she had agreed to have someone filming her if she got thrown out of an event.  It's called union busting and she needs a record.  So I ask "where's the tape?"  She didn't have her camera on her.  I ask did she get a show directory anyway?  No.  Did anyone witness her being thrown out of Adultcon?  Oh no one will verify it because they're too scared.

Then I'm hearing whining how "no one is showing up" and "I'm being thrown out of meetings".  I tell her I can have 30 people show up to back her up but I have to know where.  She tells me she's "going to XBiz".  Okay I offered to send people with her to back her up and be witnesses if they try and throw her out.  Only she won't give me the contact information.  I sat with her for two hours on the phone listening to her say "I have to be there at 1:00 p.m.".  Okay Amanda - it's now 10:00 a.m. and I'd like to come and bring support.  Where can we meet you?"  It's on the website.  No it's not.  Well it's at Xbiz.  Okay WHERE at the show?  I am getting nowhere after two hours of where to meet her.

So I'm not surprised when at 1:30 p.m. she says "oh I got thrown out".  Now she had agreed to film her being thrown out of these events but I'm not seeing the tapes.  I'm offering to send people to back her up - and I'm not hearing an address.

She interviews me for her show.  A few days later she tells me "the radio station canceled us after they heard your show and said they would burn down the station if we continued after your show".  Okay that's pretty heavy guilt trip.

I call Tina who tells me "oh now they just told us to take a vacation until January".  When was this?  Oh before you went on the show.  I go back to Amanda and demand a copy of the tape of this phone call where I'm blamed for her show being canceled.   She doesn't have it.  Now how did we go from "I'm recording all calls" to "I don't have it?"

Every time I'm turning around I'm hearing what sound an awful lot like tweaker excuses.  The dog ate my homework kind of stuff.  So I called up Bill Margold and asked him what his take was on this whole union talk.  I say that because as this is going on from what I see - I hear the APAG Guild has thrown her out and taking over.  I can see why!  I can't pin this woman down to a meeting, a business card, or an application.  That's not how you build a union.   So Bill and I talked for a long time.

He invites me on the show which was the night of his death.  Only I had to travel out of town that day and I lost his number.  I texted Amanda and asked her to help me get Bill's call  in number and I'm not hearing back from her.  Bill's telling me he doesn't know how to text.  So I don't know why Amanda didn't call me knowing Bill had wanted to interview me that night and he can't text me so why can't Amanda help me get on the show?  Don't know and I don't hear anything for days - and then I hear about his death.

I get asked to prepare a eulogy.  Okay fine.  I need to speak to his family.  My car registration can't be renewed until February 1st.  So I say I need a ride.  No problem.  I get a text message "we can send a car for you".  So I'm being told for a week a car is going to be sent for me and I need to do the eulogy - but no one will tell me where his body is, is he being cremated, and I can't get a call from the family.  I can't prepare a eulogy without speaking to the family.  I need to print them up the night before and give them to the people attending the memorial.  Only the more I'm pressing for information like how to reach his family, how many people are coming, what religion was Bill or not, who is coming to pick me up, etc.  The closer it gets to January 27th, the less I'm getting a response from anyone.

The night before the service - no one is calling me.  I tried calling and emailing everyone I know and I get no answer.  No one is calling me to come get me.  I mean what is the point of asking me to do the eulogy and saying I'm getting a ride and then to be blown off.   I don't know if he's being buried, cremated, what.  I don't know the cause of death.  Am I really supposed to get into a cab and go to this service when suddenly everyone has stopped talking to me for three days before the service!

I have a perceptive kid.  She tells me "we've seen this before".  I'm like "when?"  She says "when someone is raising money online and they don't want you to know".  They ask you to come do the eulogy and promise people you're coming to make it look like they're doing something and then start the fund raiser.   I remembered a few people did that to me with trafficking events - asked me to speak and got people to buy tickets to come hear me speak and then blew me off at the last moment.

I'm hearing from Amanda how "broke up" she is.  Only his cats gone.  Shouldn't we be looking for the cat if you "love" Bill so much?  I'm hounding this woman for Bill's home address so I can go look for this cat and not hearing a word.  For someone who "loves" Bill so much I'm not seeing even a finger lifted to go find his cat.   Finally I hear "we found the cat" to shut me up.  I ask for photos, where is the cat, where was the cat?  Some information that assures me the cat is okay and I hear nothing.  Amanda also isn't answering any of my questions.

Then the games begin.  Amanda tells me she's going to "mail" me a Bill Bear.  I remind her we'd supposed to be meeting so I can help with the union so shouldn't she give it to me then?  She just starts blowing me off.  It's now been two months and this whole thing is beginning to look like a complete sham.  Absolutely the behavior of a tweaker.  If she's not using I'll be shocked.  So I start telling her I need some answers.  She starts blowing me off.  I demand an answer and the next thing I know some guy is calling me up.  So now she's got some guy calling me?  But he says he knew Bill for a long time so I figured I'd talk to him.

Next day Amanda is ripping my head off asking me "how could you say such and such" to him?  I didn't.  She tells me "I have the tape".  I'm like "what"?  I mean why would this guy tape me and then give her the tape?   I'm talking about a dead friend and I'm being taped?  Besides, I never said what she accused me of so either she's lying or this guy doctored the tape.  She says "drop it"?  No I"m not going to "drop it" that some guy was supposedly taping me.   Why would she have some guy call me who is recording me?  What on earth did I do to her?

I go and talk to Tina about it.  At 8:00 a.m. the next morning I've got Amanda ripping my head off showing me texts from Tina she'd sent her.  Okay this is enough.  Now my text message are being sent to her?  And out of context?

For the last two months, the only time this chick has come at me has been to rip my face off.  I'm offering to help her and I'm being attacked, treated like shit, and my privacy violated?

To top it off she tells me this horrible rumor about Melissa Hill.  I mean it's horrible.  I started contacting Melissa to see if I believe the accusation.  I don't.   But then Tina starts telling me the same rumor about Melissa.  Only if this rumor is true - why was she on their board and why aren't they calling the cops?  I 'mean this is a pretty serious accusation.  But if they'd lie about me and do the "he said she said" post office game with me - why not on her?

This is a loony bin.  They are not interested in building a union.  I went online to try and figure out why they're acting like they're building a union but not building one and then I see a lot of rumors about her online that from my perspective look true.  I had heard someone had set up Sharon Mitchell for example and based on this sneaky shitty behavior I'm seeing - I'd believe it.

Enough is enough.  I've asked Amanda to take my name off her "website" if you call it that.  She's not building a union.  I don't know what she's doing but it's not that.  I have people that really want to support a union push and there's no way I would have anyone put money into the way this chick is acting.  I've done nothing but offer to help, not asked for a dime, offered nothing but support and I'm having my face ripped off every time she comes talk to me.  She's lying to me.  Lying about me.  Insulting me.  I mean Bill warned me she can "barely read and write" before his death and I see this.  I can see she's not reading any thing I'm doing and

There are a few legal exceptions where it's legal to record someone.  But you have to be in danger or trying to gather evidence of a crime.  This woman was telling me my private conversations were being texted over to her and she was listening to them.  For what ?  To hear me talk about my grief over Bill?  That's just low.  Where I come from you don't treat your family like that and the sex industry is a family to me.  I'm always going to be a part of it no matter what job I'm in.  I run www.sexworkersanonymous.com because I want to help those who no one else will help.  This woman just wants to rip and attack.  I don't believe a word of what she's saying.  It's always "the dog ate my homework" with her.

I have asked her to remove our name off her website and we have nothing more to do with Amanda.  That doesn't mean I'm anti-union however.  I've got a call into this union that's out of San Francisco and